How do you practice self-care?
For me, it's a daily practice of acknowledge my importance before I jump into the start of the day. It's as simple as reading a devotion and drinking a cup of hot tea. The devotion provides me with a daily intention and the tea is just a soothing way to begin a day that could be unpredictable. I love a bi-weekly massage and mani/pedi but sometimes my life is not as accomiating for the respite required for that mini indulgence.
In fact, self-care isn't an indulgence. I view it as a necessary break to see to your needs. It's a ritual agreement you have with yourself to provide spiritual, emotional, and physical balance. It's a service to yourself and for yourself.
When life feels like I'm between a rock and a boulder, I take a bath. The warmth of the water against my naked skin smooths my emotions. The time spent in solitude in a pool of water clears my anxious mind. Seriously, a bath is a cure-all for unpleasant feelings that wash away once I reemerge.
A scented candle, loose-leaf tea, and bubble bath are my favorite self-care aids.
Wearing my favorite outfit and spritzing my favorite perfume is also an act of self-care. These two intentional behaviors make me feel fantastic and best represent me to the world. Additionally, discovering my signature scent and the components of my favorite outfit was an opportunity for me inact patience, intuition, and self-compassion. It's not a process that can be rushed!
I'm planning to host a workshop on self-care as it relates to beauty and fashion. I'll share my tips about creating an intentional wardrobe and daily self-care routine that works for your Style Personality. Please do subscribe to the email list to watch for the date.
Who are You?
One of my favorite TV shows of all time is Mister Rogers' Neighborhood. His remarkable kindness and profound wisdom were instrumental in my development of confidence and critical thinking. Before the end of each episode, he would tell me (and others!) "You've made this day a special day, by just your being you."
" You know, you don't have to look like everybody else to be acceptable to feel acceptable." - Fred Rogers
Mister Rogers gave me my first lesson in authenticity. An acceptance of my uniqueness, quirks, and gifts. That wisdom became my power and that power is continually demonstrated in how I dress and show up in life.
Here's how to Dress with Power:
1. Break rules
If you like it, wear it! That means mixing polka dots and stripes with florals. Wearing pink and red together. Mixing gold and silver accessories in your outfit. Whatever "fashion rule" you believe, it's time to break it if it contradicts with your personal style.
2. Let go of Judgements
Stop waiting to try a new style because of your weight! TRY IT! As women, we often create barriers to our happiness. Enjoy the excitement of feeling sexy and confident regardless of your size. NOW!
3. Self Acceptance
I challenge you to stand in front of a full-length mirror wearing only a bra and panty. Admire your beauty and uniqueness. Identify what you love about your physicality. This could be your height, your hair, your décolletage. Whatever you identify, celebrate it and thank it for being a part of you. Give thanks to your body for all the times you've been healed from any illness. Thank your heart for continuously giving you life and your brain for new ideas. Thank your body for freedom of movement regardless if you need assistance. Learn to live in gratitude and not criticism.
4. Identify your Personal Style Personality
How to you like to feel when you get dressed? How do you want to be perceived in all areas of your life? Create a list identifying the qualities that first come to mind. Next, select 5 items in your closet that align with your list. This could be a pair of shoes, a necklace or earrings, a purse...doesn't necessarily have to be clothing. Once you've identified those 5 items, wear them like crazy and purchase similar items that provoke the same quality.
Style is a personal journey. Here's to enjoying the ride!
All images are from Pinterest.
Jana Coke is the founder and principal wardrobe consultant of Jana Coke Style. This is the place to be to get your style tips and wardrobe advice!