Who are You?
One of my favorite TV shows of all time is Mister Rogers' Neighborhood. His remarkable kindness and profound wisdom were instrumental in my development of confidence and critical thinking. Before the end of each episode, he would tell me (and others!) "You've made this day a special day, by just your being you."
" You know, you don't have to look like everybody else to be acceptable to feel acceptable." - Fred Rogers
Mister Rogers gave me my first lesson in authenticity. An acceptance of my uniqueness, quirks, and gifts. That wisdom became my power and that power is continually demonstrated in how I dress and show up in life.
Here's how to Dress with Power:
1. Break rules
If you like it, wear it! That means mixing polka dots and stripes with florals. Wearing pink and red together. Mixing gold and silver accessories in your outfit. Whatever "fashion rule" you believe, it's time to break it if it contradicts with your personal style.
2. Let go of Judgements
Stop waiting to try a new style because of your weight! TRY IT! As women, we often create barriers to our happiness. Enjoy the excitement of feeling sexy and confident regardless of your size. NOW!
3. Self Acceptance
I challenge you to stand in front of a full-length mirror wearing only a bra and panty. Admire your beauty and uniqueness. Identify what you love about your physicality. This could be your height, your hair, your décolletage. Whatever you identify, celebrate it and thank it for being a part of you. Give thanks to your body for all the times you've been healed from any illness. Thank your heart for continuously giving you life and your brain for new ideas. Thank your body for freedom of movement regardless if you need assistance. Learn to live in gratitude and not criticism.
4. Identify your Personal Style Personality
How to you like to feel when you get dressed? How do you want to be perceived in all areas of your life? Create a list identifying the qualities that first come to mind. Next, select 5 items in your closet that align with your list. This could be a pair of shoes, a necklace or earrings, a purse...doesn't necessarily have to be clothing. Once you've identified those 5 items, wear them like crazy and purchase similar items that provoke the same quality.
Style is a personal journey. Here's to enjoying the ride!
All images are from Pinterest.
It's Time to Shop!
Have you ever attending a Clothing Swap? If you haven't, you're in for a delicious fashion treat! Join me and other fabulous women as you shop the racks of other attendees gently used clothing, shoes, jewelry, and all other accessories. Some of my Clothing Swap hauls have included items from Jill Sander, DVF, Tory Burch, and many, many others!
HOW IT WORKS
- Bring up to 10 items of gently worn clothing, jewelry, shoes and other accessories
- Items should show minimal signs of wear
- All CLOTHING IS FREE for EXCHANGE
- Hangers, clothing racks, and an fitting room are available at my DTLA Showroom
- Lite bites will be provided
Too many of one and not enough of another. It's a common dichotomy. Often, this scenario is present in many closets I enter before a Wardrobe Audit.
"Elegance is usually confused with superficiality, fashion, lack of depth. This is a serious mistake: human beings need to have elegance in their actions and in their posture because this word is synonymous with good taste, amiability, equilibrium, and harmony." - Paulo Coelho
What's the secret to a harmonious wardrobe? It begins with purposeful shopping which leads to a wardrobe of coordinated pieces. Here's how to become a shopper with purpose:
1. Go Explore
Put on a comfortable outfit and shoes and visit 2 of your favorite stores for 2 hours. Browse the racks and select whatever catches your eye. Do this without judgment of fit or appropriateness. The goal is to learn what you like and dislike and what textures, colors, and silhouettes naturally draw you in. Take notes of how you feel. Snap a picture of the items you like. Most of all, do not purchase anything!
2. Take Inventory
Remove any items that do not make you feel great from your wardrobe. This includes items that are not a great fit and do not serve a purpose in the current stage of your life. Using the pictures and notes from your shopping trip as a guide, match up all the items aligned with your likes and dislikes.
3. Split it
Create 3 separate piles of your clothes. One for dresses, another for skirts/shorts/pants, and the last for tops. Count how many you have of each. If you can, match up at least 4 outfits that coordinate with your tops and bottoms. If you have any orphan tops or bottoms (you have already established that you like/love these items) that you find impossible to coordinate, place these in the front of your closet.
Take the orphan items shopping to find their match! At your designated favorite store, pull tops that you feel will look fantastic with your current bottoms. Do the same for your current tops. Goal yourself to create at least 3 outfits in the fitting room. Note how you feel and think about the accessories and shoes your currently own that will complete the look.
The timeline works best over a two week period. Dedicate a Saturday or Sunday to Explore the shops if your professional life keeps you busy during the week. You want to feel refreshed and not rushed while you Explore. Remember: the goal is balance!
Here's to a closet styled in harmony!
Jana Coke is the founder and principal wardrobe consultant of Jana Coke Style. This is the place to be to get your style tips and wardrobe advice!