How do you practice self-care?
For me, it's a daily practice of acknowledge my importance before I jump into the start of the day. It's as simple as reading a devotion and drinking a cup of hot tea. The devotion provides me with a daily intention and the tea is just a soothing way to begin a day that could be unpredictable. I love a bi-weekly massage and mani/pedi but sometimes my life is not as accomiating for the respite required for that mini indulgence.
In fact, self-care isn't an indulgence. I view it as a necessary break to see to your needs. It's a ritual agreement you have with yourself to provide spiritual, emotional, and physical balance. It's a service to yourself and for yourself.
When life feels like I'm between a rock and a boulder, I take a bath. The warmth of the water against my naked skin smooths my emotions. The time spent in solitude in a pool of water clears my anxious mind. Seriously, a bath is a cure-all for unpleasant feelings that wash away once I reemerge.
A scented candle, loose-leaf tea, and bubble bath are my favorite self-care aids.
Wearing my favorite outfit and spritzing my favorite perfume is also an act of self-care. These two intentional behaviors make me feel fantastic and best represent me to the world. Additionally, discovering my signature scent and the components of my favorite outfit was an opportunity for me inact patience, intuition, and self-compassion. It's not a process that can be rushed!
I'm planning to host a workshop on self-care as it relates to beauty and fashion. I'll share my tips about creating an intentional wardrobe and daily self-care routine that works for your Style Personality. Please do subscribe to the email list to watch for the date.
For the last several years, many fashion blogs and magazines have sprouted the wonders of creating a Capsule Wardrobe. A wardrobe the is purposefully full of basic items that are seasonless and coordinate with one another with little effort. In theory, I love the idea. Who wouldn't want a closet full of wearable items?
In practice it's a whole other thing. A quick search on Pinterest will yield results that suggest purchasing a set number of tops, bottoms, and accessories, and shoes. No forethought goes into color, prints, and most definitely not Style Personality. Lifestyle is also not considered.
During a Style Coordination appointment with a client, I show my clients how to create outfits based on the items they current have within their wardrobe. No set number of skirts, dresses, tops, shoes, and accessories are required.
1. Edit your Closet
Any time you are considering changing up your wardrobe, you need to begin the process with a full Edit. While doing your Wardrobe Edit, you will identify the pieces you love, hate, and feel indifference. I highly advise the removal of items that you do not love. Try it on for fit and organize it call by type and color.
2. Identify your Hue
Now that you can fully see the contents of your wardrobe, identify the dominant color in your wardrobe. If your wardrobe consist of mostly black, white, or grey, select the next actual color in your wardrobe. As a note, black, white, and grey are shades, tones, and tints. They are used to change a pure color and not considered an actual color. See this color wheel for reference.
3. Coordinate your Looks
Do you notice themes in your wardrobe? Similar prints and silhouettes? More pants than skirts? Lots of jeans and chunky heels? Take a note of what you constantly wear that makes you feel and look your absolute best. Coordinate a signature look using your wardrobe themes, and replicate this with like-items in your wardrobe.
For example, a cobalt blue pencil skirt makes me feel sophisticated, chic, and sexy. It's dominated within my Signature Color and in my best silhouette. My wardrobe in full of skirts and I used this one item to create similar outfits that match this look. Does that make sense?
In essence, a Capsule Wardrobe is a closetful of items that work for you. It's a closet full of wearable items that are a reflection of who you are that you enjoy wearing.
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Prints that are reminiscent of vacationing are trending for Spring. As color is the emotion of a wardrobe, prints are the voice. A Sexy Style Personality in an Animal Print vocalizes her care-free, and creative identity. Out of all the trending prints for Spring 2019, I've identified your key print for your Style Personality:
Classic: Checkerboard Checks
Gingham should be a basic in the Spring wardrobe of the Classic Woman. The black and white print is easy to pair with the tempered hues in her wardrobe. Push the boundaries and wear a gingham dress with a tomato red blazer at a Summer work conference.
Comfort: Tie Dye
Tie-Dye is having a 3rd wave revival. The very hippie print matches the easy-going temperament of the Comfort Woman. Try it out on a casual pull-over paired with shorts and chic sandals for a weekend getaway.
Feminine: English Florals
Florals for spring are nothing new for a Feminine Style Personality. Instead of a pastel floral that is ordinarily obvious, this floral print is more romance than sweet. Try on a rose motif shoe for a holiday weekend celebration.
Sexy: Scarf Prints
Motifs of paisley, ditsy florals, and potpourri of patterns are usually reserved for silk scarfs. Now blown to full proportions, try wearing this print on a chic blouse and matching shorts on a warm spring night.
The color of cheer, joy, and optimism yellow in all variations is the color of Spring 2019. For the serious temperaments, this upbeat hue can be a bit off-putting. Particularly if your wardrobe is compose of lots of black. However! There is a way to incorporate some cheer in your style for your Style Personality:
Watercolor prints are perfect for the Classic Style Personality. The splashes of yellow are perfectly balance by shades of black, cobalt, and a coral. The dress wears will with a navy cardigan and sandals to ground the dress. This will become a go-look for springtime celebrations.
Try on a yellow plaid short if you're a Comfort Style Personality! Matched with a basic white tank, denim jacket, and slides, this will become a favorite outfit for a Saturday brunch on the patio.
Marigold is bring the sunshine to the Feminine Woman! This tiered sundress is matched with a bubblegum pink cardigan and grosgrain tie espadrilles. A Feminine's Spring wardrobe must feature florals..a statement necklace and earrings adds the whimsy.
The yellow mixed media skirt is the star of this outfit! The Sexy Woman can get away with mixing black and yellow..with a slight nod to a bumble bee. The white blazer structures the look as does the top-handle purse. Add in the leather belt over the blazer to a stunning hourglass silhouette. I can see the Sexy Style Personality wearing this to a cocktail event.
As color trend is a result of societal shifts, yellow is going to be around for a while. If you're looking to add new wardrobe staples, consider pieces that you can wear through fall.
Texture is an element in style that is highly underappreciated. While color speaks to emotion, texture speaks to personality. An all black outfit in a flat fabric is instantly elevated to sexy and chic when done with leather and fringe. Here's how to make the Textures of Spring 2019 your own by your Style Personality:
Next to a strand of pearls, nothing is as timeless as lace. It's sophisticated and sensual without being sexy when paired on tailored silhouettes and can be worn as a day-time staple. As a Classic Style Personality, you'll look fantastic when you update your suiting with a lace blouse or pair up a lace pump with a simple sheath dress. Be sure to look for lace in your signature hue on your next shopping excursion.
Your childhood dream has come true! It you're a Feminine Style Personality, now is the time to dress as a ballerina princess in this uber romantic fabric. Pair your tulle pieces with structured items to keep the look from being too ingenue. Pair up a tulle skirt with a tailored blazer and kitten heels. For just a touch of tulle, lookout for accessories and embellishment on basic pieces.
Fringe sways to the beat of the Sexy Woman's walk! This embellished fabric shouts excitement and confidence of the Sexy Style Personality. Fringe details on shoes in a bright color are the perfect accompaniment for a sleek white pant. Try out an all-over fringe skirt with a crisp white blouse for work.
Crochet brings up memories leisure and comfort; the perfect texture for the Comfort Woman. The ease of crochet provides the perfect sensibility for your Style Personality while invoking interest. Team up a crochet maxi skirt with a bleached denim jacket and basic tee for a casual work day. On the weekends, a crochet flat is great with your favorite shorts and tank matched to a belt bag.
WARDROBE CHALLENGE: I intentionally left out the links to purchase these items! I want you to shop your closet for the texture that works for your Style Personality. Don't have it? Email me for shopping suggestions.
Your Key Hue
What emotion emanates from an all black outfit? What about wearing green and red? What color completely repulses you? Why?
As you begin to edit your wardrobe for spring, take notice of the colors that you seem you wear the most. Are these colors communicating the right message about you? Many women hold the belief that an outfit of all black is chic and slimming. These are truths only if your personality holds the space for the blankness this is absent in this non-hue. An all black outfit on a Comfort Style Personality with a calm temperament and subtle body movement is a communication disaster.
Every Time I get dressed, I like to feel polished, bold, and sophisticated. My signature color embodies and reflects these temperaments. Can you guess my signature color?
My signature color is deep Navy Blue. This cool and bold hue looks well in any fabrication and pairs well with most colors. I have a preference to wear my navy with black in the fall/winter months and with white and bold orange in the spring/summer months. Because navy is the central color of my wardrobe, I center all other hues around it in my wardrobe planning.
What's your signature color?
As the days get longer and the sun shines brighter, it's now the perfect time to plan your Spring Wardrobe. Here's how to do it:
1. Take Inventory of your Fall/Winter Wardrobe.
If you've read or watched Marie Kondo's book or Netflix series then you know how to rid yourself of clothing items that do not Spark Joy. If an item brings up a negative feeling (makes you feel fat, old, dated); and shows visible signs of wear, get rid of it. Outside of weather challenges, if you didn't wear it at all this season, get rid of it.
2. Determine what items can be worn into Spring.
White cotton blouses, black poplin pants, navy hues, and black and white prints on mid-weight fabrics should be included in your Spring Wardrobe. Any other year-around items that are not dependent of weather can be kept out, too.
3. Determine what items to store way.
Velvet, corduroy, thick sweaters, cashmere in deep hues, herringbones, and christmas plaids should be set aside for storage. Knee high boots should also be stored if you Spring Wardrobe doesn't style well to that look.
4. Take inventory of your Spring/Summer Wardrobe.
Eyelet fabrics, wispy dresses, linen pants and bright pastels should be reserved for their wardrobe debut in May. Bring out anything in navy nauticals, jacquard florals, stripes, and tissue weight cashmere. Keep out your twill trench if you have it. If you are not on a weight loss plan and an item doesn't fit, get rid of it. It will take up space in your closet and cause a negative emotion because you can not wear it.
5. Create 5 favorite outfits.
Now is the time to have fun! Once you have your wardrobe organized by item and color, it's time to shop your closet. With an idea of your upcoming activities and the weather, create 5 distinct outfits. Coordinate a dress with a blazer and heels; jeans and blouse with booties and a trench; skirt with a knit sweater, blazer and sandals; and anything that works for your lifestyle.
6. Create a shopping list (if needed) .
If you are have difficulty shopping your closet or wishing you had a particular item to complete an outfit, take note of it. If you see something in a magazine or on the internet that works for your Style Personality and current wardrobe, add it to the list. Once you've determined your shopping budget , go get it!
When my clients learn their Style Personality, they immediately identify the items in their closet that do not align and understand why their favorite outfit is their favorite. it's all about a CONSISTENT FEELING. An emotion that determines your shopping choices. It's not situational and dependent on an occasion.
Sure, most women want to feel sexy on a date and polished at work and experience comfort on the weekend. Those are occasional emotions and not outflowing from who you are at your core. Your authentic Style Personality is a reflection of your overall approach to life.
Here are some examples:
A Sexy Woman is bold. She's assertive in all areas of her life. She was raised as an only child or the eldest.
A Feminine Woman is an introvert. She is reflective and thoughtful in her communications.
A Classic Woman is poised and direct. Her leadership style is diplomatic and dependable.
A Comfort Woman has an "easy-going" demeanor. She enjoys a night in.
When a woman is not dressing in alignment with her authentic Style Personality, it shows up as discomfort in her clothes and discontentment in her wardrobe. A Sexy Woman dressed as a Comfort Woman will feel stifled in her life.
With all this said, MANY women have secondary Style Personalities.
Discover your Primary and Secondary Style Personality with my Style Quiz.
The Sexy Woman is all about feeling sensual and looking bold in her clothing. She is a fashion-forward woman that appreciates the art of getting dressed. The Sexy Woman considers animal prints her neutral and loves patterns and colors in all varieties. She has a flair for expressing drama in her style through fringe, metallic, furs, and skins. The Sexy Woman more than likely has many other Style Personalities represented in her wardrobe due to her trendy nature.
How to know you are a Sexy Woman
- You wear a lot of stilettos and open-toed shoes.
-You consider yourself a fashion connoisseur and enjoy shopping.
- You have a signature fragrance and a statement lipstick.
- You experiment with your hair styles and nail hues.
- You can be considered a maximalist.
- Your go-to brands are: DVF, Alice & Olivia, Cushnie, Aquazzura
Do you express a bit of drama in your wardrobe? Perhaps you are a Sexy Woman!
Jana Coke is the founder and principal wardrobe consultant of Jana Coke Style. This is the place to be to get your style tips and wardrobe advice!